Yesterday, celebrating a wonderful week with a glass of my favorite single malt scotch: The 25 Year Macallan (neat, water back) at the local public house, I found myself next to an attractive couple in the midst of debriefing one another on their days. My ears perked up and I became interested when I overheard “facilitation,” and “training.” Waiting for a lull in the conversation, I asked the woman what she did for a living (after apologizing for the intrusion).
She looked at me for a moment (realizing that I was asking based on what I had likely overheard), and stuttered that she was a fitness trainer, or something… or an interior designer, and a fitness trainer on the side… her delivery was so poor that I was hesitant to go any further (she wasn’t drunk). Giving her a second chance (I’m that kind of guy) I mentioned that I was actually looking for a fitness trainer -- would she care to exchange information and discuss this at a more convenient time (we’re at dinner, and I’ve got a very nice glass of scotch that I’m interested in continuing to enjoy).
Amazingly, despite having the physique that would verify her agility and skill at fitness (her education ability was certainly questionable), she remained flustered and apologetic after several minutes of digging around in her purse to find a business card. She did eventually find a business card with her full time job’s contact information on it…
What a missed opportunity, and a reminder of how worthless mediocre first impressions are. I politely took the card but immediately wrote her off and went on with my evening, never bothering to look back in their direction. The business card, to avoid taking up space next to more important contacts is in the trash.
She may not have been interested in taking on new clients, or could have even been in the process of winding her freelance training down. Regardless, I was hungry to find someone that did exactly what she did, who looked like they could do it, and I had – through random happenstance – met that someone.
Folks, don’t be that woman. Don’t let your spokesmen / spokeswomen / ambassadors (your website, social presence, etc) present a stuttering, stammering first impression. Be bold, impressive, and interesting.
Case in point, if she had simply said “oh, during the day I am an interior designer, but by night I’m a fitness trainer. My last customer lost 90 lbs. over the course of our work together,” I probably would have given her my information.